twilightreader, I have heard something similar from many men -- that men "don't know who they are" and have trouble developing an identity. These guys are telling me, almost, that they men don't know who they are unless they are in a traditionally privileged role.

You seem to view this identity crisis as coming from the media.

The strange thing, though, is that men are largely in control of the media. Most of the people writing, producing, and directing the material that uses these characters are men.

So, I'm curious -- what do you think men need? New media? To educate the media? Or to create new models and disseminate them?