That makes sense. I used to mess up a lot of things myself, because I felt like things would mess up anyway and it gave me some sense of control. Weird, I know!

Hope I didn't offend anyone by referring to my family members as martyrs and victims! Some of them take it a step further by making "I've been so wronged" the basis for their entire identity. It's just really uncomfortable for me when they want so much negative attention ALL THE TIME.